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When we are caring for or working with children and youth who have experience trauma, we often worry most about the big behaviors. In this conversation, we use examples as we discuss how big behaviors are an indication that there are big needs that haven’t been met yet. We all need people that will still “see us” and help us through our “mess”. The key to addressing these challenges is to see the needs behind the behaviors and meet those needs.

When behavioral challenges come up, one of the questions we can ask ourselves is, “Is this a can’t or a won’t”. Is this child refusing to do something I have asked, or are they unable to do what I have asked? Have I set the bar appropriately? In this video, we explore how behavioral challenges are most often a “can’t” and how we can respond most effectively.

We know that children who have had traumatic or stressful histories are often developmentally much younger, and sometimes older, than their chronological age. In this video, we talk about the importance of understanding children/youth’s developmental age in the moment and meeting their needs accordingly. This may look very different than how you might respond based on their chronological age.

Connection is at the heart of TBRI®. Research has shown that relationships are one of the most powerful influences on a person’s wellbeing. In this video, we talk the importance a strong basis of connection in our relationships with our children and youth to support success when correcting and empowering.

What does it really mean to have a sense of “Felt Safety”? In this conversation, we dive into what means to truly know that you are safe.

There are 4 skills of healthy attachment that are the key to being able to have successful relationships and successful lives. They include the ability to give care, receive care, negotiate needs and be autonomous. Watch as we talk about how each of the 4 skills influence our lives and the way we care (or work with) our children and youth and what it looks like to teach the 4 skills.

Why does Mindfulness matter? What does it look like? Why does it matter when we think about TBRI®?

The “3 C’s” of correcting include leaving the situation feeling Connected, feeling Content, and having Changed Behavior. These are the goals of correction. How do we achieve this?

We all sometimes need to dive back into the Attachment Cycle. What is it? What happens in our brains and bodies as we move through this cycle? How does the Attachment Cycle help us learn about relationships?

Responding effectively to difficult behaviors is challenging. In this video, we dig into the IDEAL response (Immediate, Direct, Efficient, Action-Based, Leveled at the Behavior, not the Child). What does each of these pieces mean?